Conscious Discipline can be defined as developing discipline within children rather than applying discipline to them.
The first part of Conscious Discipline we are going to touch on is giving our children choices. Giving your children choices helps them feel in control. For example: It is time for Lucy to pick up her toys. When you tell her to pick up, she ignores you and continues to play. Instead of enforcing a consequence or punishment for her behavior, enforce a positive choice. “Lucy you have a choice. You can pick up the baby dolls first or the Lego’s first. What is your choice?” Lucy replies, “Baby dolls because I love babies.”
Will giving your children choices motivate them to complete the task you are wanting done every time? Probably not. But it will help guide and direct the kids who need more one-on-one attention.
In order for us (parents) to deliver choices to our kids on a daily basis, two things are required:
- We need to think what we want our children to do while giving them choices. We wanted Lucy to pick up her toys.
- We need to give our children at least two positive choices. We allowed Lucy to choose which toy she wanted to pick up first.
Giving children choices empowers them to make a good choice rather than a negative choice. Stay tuned for the second part of Conscious Parenting coming next week!